Conversation is very important especially on a first date and not just any conversation, but a fresh and quality conversation. Remember that this will be a manifestation of your personality and character. So if you do prepare for something before a date, let your conversation be the first. It will be your primary basis of getting to know each other. So make sure to think about the topics that you want to talk about beforehand.
Here are few-
Talk about books:
If you and your date like reading books, then this is a great topic starter. There must be at least 1 or 2 common books you both have read. Sharing your views about them would make good conversation. This would also be a nice way of knowing whether you have the same kind of taste or not.
Lull-breakers:
It is common to arrive at a lull between conversations. Face it, You can’t be chatting away at every given second. The trick is not to prolong this lull into an awkward and uncomfortable silence. Now we know the time-gap for the lull to turn into an awkward silence is sadly, very less for your nervous brain to generate a fabulously original topic to talk about. Consider these:
When you fall into a lull, tell her the bracelet /ring she is wearing is pleasantly unusual. If it is not all that unusual, just tell her it is pretty… There might be an interesting anecdote attached to it, which she would willingly narrate. Ok that could also be a boring anecdote but hey, we got you out of the lull!
You could also try commenting about the place you are presently at. Tell her what you like about it. From here, you could talk about your favorite hang-outs, restaurants etc.
Travel talk:
If you both like to travel, you can cook up a nice and exciting conversation on the destinations you both have visited. Take delight in letting your date know the places you wish to visit, your favorite destination by far, etc. You will be amazed to see what a good chat two travel freaks can make.
Even if you do not enjoy traveling or are a victim to plane-fright or seasickness, lend them an ear and let them narrate their fun-filled expeditions. Your date will appreciate if you listen to them patiently.
Current issues:
It is very important for you to be aware of the current issues, be it local or international. An ignorant person is an unattractive person. In addition, of course, you do not want to be giving your date dumbfounded looks when they bring up the topic of an ongoing war, or the shortage of water or the death of an important person. However, it must be bared in mind to avoid controversial topics as they may lead to steamy arguments.
About yourself:
You want to get to know your date better. Your date mirrors this thought. Talking about yourself freely will give them an inside view to yourself. Briefly tell them about your little achievements in the past or just talk light-heartedly about your childhood, where you grew up and a bit about your family.
Be comfortable:
Remember, you don’t have to tell everything about yourself to your date on your first outing. Nor should you exhaust all the topics under the sun on your first date itself. If your date asks you a personal question or topic which you’re not comfortable in answering or talking about but do not want to appear evasive or rude at the same time. Just smile and say something like, “Let’s not talk about that right now…” or “I’m not very sure of what I think about that…” and segue to another topic smoothly. The reason you must refuse to talk about an uncomfortable or sensitive topic is that it is still your first date. Conversation should be as trivial and fun as it can be at this time. You can bring up those topics yourself when you feel comfortable enough around your date.
Your ambitions:
Talking about your career and ambitions is also a good way of getting to know each other. Talking about your dreams and aspirations will also make your date feel important.
Music, movies, sports:
Carry on fun and light conversation about music and movies. Discuss your favorite performers and the type of music you prefer. Talk about the new flicks you want to see and who knows, you might end up finding a second date to go to the movies!
The above tips are just to get you started on your conversation. There can be a wider array of topics you can discover yourself that you will find interesting enough to talk. Be spontaneous is initiating new topics. You will notice yourself how one topic leads to another. Just go ahead and have fun! Because that’s the reason you’re out on a date…